Day Late and $1 Short- ‘Bye Baby’
Man…”Bye Baby” appears on Nas latest solo album “Life Is Good”, which is one of his most personal tracks he has ever recorded. He felt that rather than you hear about what happened, he would tell you the TRUTH himself. “But Toine, there is his side, Kelis side, and somewhere lies the truth”. This is true, BUT given we are a social network driven society, she has yet to tweet OR do an interview about anything he recorded on “Bye Baby”, so I’ll take it as—he is telling the truth.
Now, before I proceed, I would like to state that this post isn’t directed to anybody in particular so please don’t flatter yourself. “Life Is Good” hit stores last week and Nas is my favorite artist of all time and I felt that this song was so amazing that I deserved a slot here on “A Day Late and $1 Short”. I hate that I had to type that because if you know me, you would know that I despise explaining myself. As a matter fact, MOST of my posts are…never mind, I really hate explaining myself.
Moving right along….
Some of us have trouble moving on from a situation that was dismantled because we were at fault, and others have issues moving on even if the other party was responsible for the termination of the relationship. Then we have the mutual agreement people. These are the couples that communally agree that things aren’t heading in the direction as they hoped for, and end things on a more….a more understanding note. This type of breakup usually ends with one person getting fed up, and telling their s/o about what went wrong in the relationship, what he/she did wrong as well and what the partner did incorrect. Then, the other person comes out the wood works with issues that haven’t been discussed prior to this healthy debate (cause Toine don’t argue…anymore) and you sit there with the “Who Pooted” face because you would have NEVER heard of these issues if YOU had not have brought this to the table. People will get so complacent with being with the WRONG person, but like I said in my “Another Again” post you can’t catch gone. Keep it moving.
I said all that to say this, if we were all to audit our INCONSISTENT relationship, I’m pretty confident that all the people that are in the grey area with their significant other, would seriously start to revaluate continuing to waste their time. This would eliminate subliminal tweets, phone calls complaining to a friend, and the #1 source for reading depressing s***, Facebook. Which contains nothing but pure pre-marital Keyshia Cole type status’ from bitter women all over the world that are extremely scorned (which is a reason why my visits are VERY short on there). You can tell when someone is going through it with his or her significant other on a social network. The couple’s picture comes down with the quickness! I digress though but mainly women do this.
Gather yourself and deliberate before you make this decision that is going to affect you for the rest of your life. I’ve been through some pretty TOUGH situations in my life, therefore; I have pretty good judgment on when to throw in the towel. What I’m saying to do is use your experience with the opposite sex (or same…YIKES) to your advantage. Nobody knows you better than you know yourself. That’s why it’s imperative to be real with YOURSELF first. You are internalizing by continuing to go through the motions that haven’t proceed to head in a positive direction in MONTHS. Be stern and provide closure. Without the proper closure, man….without the proper closure s*** can get pretty real. Random text, tweets, calls… ALL OF THAT. I’ve been there and done that and I witness it often. Mind all over the place because the demise of the relationship was not concrete. Closure can be a b*** though, because that’s where the truth REALLY comes out if you all were holding back during the initial break up session. Nothing worse than hearing “Closure Points” from mutual friend. “Dawg, ole girl told me that she HATED that you used to eat a bag of Cooler Ranch Doritos before for bed every night and try to kiss in the AM” Whoa, Wait…WHAT?!
“Listen, could you imagine writing your deposition?
Divorce lawyer telling you how this thing gonna be ending
With you paying out the ass and I’m talking half
Not some but half
No serious, half
Half of your soul
Half of your heart, you leaving behind
It’s either that or die
I wanted peace of mind”
This is why “Bye Baby” is so pure. Raw, cinematic emotions were poured into this track. The lyrics scribed above is the main reason why I don’t mind being single and patiently waiting on my queen. I want to take that oath before God ONE time and #dassit. My “plan” was to be engaged by 25. Unless I meet Yoncee or Zoë Kravitz this weekend (my 25th birthday is in September by the way) then that’s not going to happen. Obviously my “plan” isn’t really mine if think about it in a spiritual aspect. That serves as a reminder to keep my faith. Protect and love yourself, because YOU have to learn to do that before you can allow someone else to. Don’t be scared to try it again. Patience is the strongest form of discipline…remember that.